Monthly Archives: September 2013

Multipliers Vs Diminishers

I have been enjoying Liz Wiseman’s book called Multipliers.
This is how she defines a multiplier…..

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are leaders who use their intelligence to amplify the smarts and capabilities of the people around them. When these leaders walk into a room, light bulbs go on; ideas flow and problems get solved. These are the leaders who inspire the people with whom they work to stretch themselves and surpass expectations. These leaders use their smarts to make everyone around them smarter and more capable.

Having work with ‘diminishing’ leaders, I know what I don’t want in a leader or a coach or a teacher, or even a parent.
I find Wiseman’s distinctions between a Multiplier and a Diminisher very helpful in my primary roles as a life and business/ministry results coach, and even as a husband and dad.

The following interview was done with the author at a recent leadership conference in Chicago.
If after viewing you this or reading this blogpost you would like to engage a conversation on the topic, feel free to contact me.

10 Solid Reasons to Enlist A Coach in Your Life

sharpen saw photoMy excellent mentor coach provided this list of excellent reasons to enlist a coach in your growth personally and professionally. My own coach worked closely with me over a 12 month plus to bring me to a new level of proficiency but I continue to need to be in ‘development’ mode as I assist people as a coach.

An excellent coach will assist you to ‘sharpen the saw’ of your life. After you read this piece, if you think I could be of assistance in your personal and professional development, please contact me at the information below.

The Top 10 Reasons To Hire a Coach*

(provided by Ken Abrams MCC)
There are over 100 things that you can work on with your Personal/Professional Coach, but here are the Top 10.

1.You will set far better goals that motivate you in a healthy way.

Did you have Goal Setting 101 in high school? Probably not. Enter the coach, an expert in helping you to identify and set the goals that you really want, not the ones that are “shoulds,” pipedreams that you’ve been recycling or that mirror the goals of your parents, society or Madison Avenue. Choosing the right goals for you is an art and the coach takes the necessary time to help you clarify your personal values, so that you have something really solid on which to develop your goals. Value-based goals are naturally motivating, but it takes good coaching to get to these.

2. You’ll accomplish goals and tasks and projects much more quickly.

One of the reasons that people hire a coach is to save themselves time. Working with a coach, they learn how to be far more effective, efficient and productive in everything that they do, including their job/business or personal projects. We humans just aren’t that naturally effective, even if we think that we are. The coach has the tools and techniques to share with their clients so that things get done in half the time.

3. You’ll make fewer mistakes in your business life or in your personal life.

The old model of learning from your mistakes has deteriorated to be more like: How else will you learn if you don’t make mistakes? Too expensive, in our view. With a coach, you have a third eye, someone who’s been there and who has coached others in your situation, and an expert in getting the job done with the minimum of fuss (called learning curve, mistakes, errors in judgment, wrong tunnels, etc.). The costs (emotional, financial, time) of making mistakes has gotten very expensive in the past decade. A single mistake can ruin you in today’s hyper-paced business environment. Some clients use their coach as an inexpensive insurance policy.

4. You’ll move up to the next level of your professional and personal life.

Almost everybody is moving up the ladder of business success, personal development, awareness and well being. The coach can help you see where you are right now and point out ways to grow and get where you want to get to. Or, if you’re not even on the ladder, the coach can guide you to it and help you get started on your path.

5. You’ll reduce the number of problems you have and better resolve the problems that are left.

The first step in solving a problem is to ask yourself why you have this problem at all. The second step is to ask yourself why you have problems at all. The third step is to get on track to having no problems — a.k.a., becoming a Problem-Free Zone (PFZ). This is not a joke. Being a PFZ is becoming even more important along the path of sustainable success. You cannot afford to have problems, period. Life’s too short and problems are too expensive. A well-trained coach can help you become a PFZ. A well-trained coach is a PFZ his/herself.

6. You’ll likely make more money in your career, profession or business.

Clients don’t keep paying their coaches just for the fun of it. Coaching, like every other professional service, needs to improve the financial bottom line and it does. Coaches are trained to help clients to leverage their ability to make money, i.e., getting a raise, choosing a better career, starting a business, improving profitability, adding more value to their customers, proper pricing, productivity and others. Sure, coaching is personal, but it almost always includes a strong financial aspect.

7. You’ll be a lot happier and this happiness will last.

Coaches know how to help you to reduce stress, integrate all aspects of your life, simplify or downshift, and reorient around what makes you the happiest. What good is increased productivity and profitability if you’re not happy?

8. You’ll be much more effective and influential with others: family, business and personal relationships.
Communication makes life, life. A coach is an expert communicator and trains clients on how to come across better, relate well with others, listen aggressively, influence, coach, motivate and support others. There are over 100 communication and listening skills that clients can learn from a coach.

9. You’ll become much more attractive to others — on the inside and on the outside.
Selling, as a profession and as a proven technique/process, is on its way out. Why? Because humans are getting better at choosing for themselves and buying better. Humans will respond less to advertising and selling techniques and instead be drawn to a product or service and they will be more likely drawn because of who is offering the product or service. And it replaces much of the promotion, marketing, selling, seducing and other very expensive budget items. Remember that the world (a.k.a. consumers) is rapidly eliminating virtually all waste and inefficiencies in how business is conducted, products are sold and how services are delivered. Selling and mass marketing, while certainly still very effective right now, is on the hit list.

10. You’ll have a better life, not just a better lifestyle.
The term Quality of Life has become overused in the past few years, but the trend of Americans seeking to create a much better life for themselves is accelerating. In fact, people are re-examining what they had assumed that a good  life was (married, 2.3 kids, nice car, secure job, church on Sundays, 3 weeks of vacation a year) and are now creating their own life, often breaking the rules and flying in the face of conventional wisdom in the process. A coach has been trained in the Life Design process and has already made the kind of design changes in their life that his/her clients are just now beginning to make.
*Originally written by Thomas J. Leonard (1997)Image

The New Serenity Prayer

No doubt many of us have seen the traditional Serenity prayer, often displayed in old church basements where AA or NA meetings are taking place.

This week I really enjoyed reading Fr James Martin’s fresh rendition of the Prayer which he simply called ‘the New Serenity Prayer’. And because I tend to talk too much and say things that aren’t needful, this prayer stops me from gushing when it’s not necessary.

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the people I cannot change,
which is pretty much everyone,
since I’m clearly not you, God.
At least not the last time I checked.

And while you’re at it, God,
please give me the courage
to change what I need to change about myself,
which is frankly a lot, since, once again,
I’m not you, which means I’m not perfect.
It’s better for me to focus on changing myself
than to worry about changing other people,
who, as you’ll no doubt remember me saying,
I can’t change anyway.

Finally, give me the wisdom to just shut up
whenever I think that I’m clearly smarter
than everyone else in the room,
that no one knows what they’re talking about except me,
or that I alone have all the answers.

Basically, God,
grant me the wisdom
to remember that I’m
not you.


Mediocrity in 10 Easy Steps

While reading  Tommy Newberry’s book ‘The War on Success’, hidden within the pages was a list of 10 easy steps to a life of mediocrity.  Each of these ‘steps’ are deadly to the soul and mind.  And mostly, stop initiative in our lives. I find myself reviewing these 10 steps towards a life of mediocrity frequently.  Being ‘older’ I am conscious of the tendency to just want to ‘coast’ and not give my best effort at living a better version of myself.

These 10 ‘negatives’ are actually positive incentives to get off my ‘a…..’ and move forward.

1. Tolerate average standards for yourself.

2. Hang out with moaners and complainers.

3. Make a habit of doing the minimum.

4. Look for the worst in people and situations.

5. Blame others for your mistakes and disappointments.

6. Harbor resentment and discontent.

7. Mock the successful around you.

8. Practice group think about issues both small and large.

9. Waste as much time as possible.

10. Predict the worst about your future.